Children are very observant and have an instinct to pick up bad vibes, though it may not seem like it they are quite aware of their surroundings. All this was put into prospective when my daughter asked;
‘’mommy why are you not smiling like you do, have I made you sad?’’
How am I to explain to my little angel that I was for a moment ashamed of her because she was graded a ‘’F’’ on her math paper. I was immediately disgusted with myself for having such thoughts and told her that I love her and that she was the best! She is really! Aged five I was still confused with my left and right. But I turned out not too bad so who am I to judge her? She is still ten and has a life time to catch up on math but my relationship with her could have been destroyed forever depending on how I responded to her.
This is what led me to look up home tuition, and so far it has done wonders for me, my daughter and of course her math grade. Our home tutor Tim is a punctual and well-mannered gentleman who has really being able to make a breakthrough for my daughter and she seems happier than ever. Now her face does not cringe at the mention of ‘’Math’’ in fact she seems to be enjoying it more than the other subjects she used to love in the past. She is now happier to go to the grocer’s with me where she is quick to calculate the change, she even takes over spiting up the slices of pizza, just the way Tim has thought her. Home tuition has brought out a major part of my daughter’s personality which I now understand that she hid because she was afraid to speak up everywhere numbers played a big part. Every time I see her smile that cheeky smile when she gets something right I give myself a pat on the back. I have done right by my daughter.
Yes we have dreams and aspirations for our kids because we want them to go places that we did not have the opportunity to. But that is by no means a licence to piggy back your unfulfilled ambitions onto a life of another. I am glad I learnt that while there is still hope for both of us and I am thankful to our tutor Singapore, Tim for being not only a good teacher but also an encouraging big brother.